Happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts

You have found it. You have made the first step towards being truly happy that is searching for it. You will find it yourself till you reach the end of the blog.

Marketing has coded our mind making us believe that more is always better. Wearing expensive clothes, driving luxury cars, wearing fancy watches will make up happier and it becomes the dream of people to reach that state to achieve it. I am not saying that it won’t, it may but it’s clearly up to us. It’s possible that driving a Lambo wearing a two thousand dollar suit would make you happy because it has been your dream to drive one. It certainly would but you don’t really need all those things to be content.

When we see the richest person on Earth, we believe that earning money building a trampoline floor in the house and driving supercars will make us happy.

When we see famous footballers and actors we assume that having fame will make us happy.

When we see powerful people we think that having the power to make decision and influence people is the way of a happy life.

Most people lack money and fame and power that is why they think that having all the money and power in the world will solve all their problems and ultimately they will reach the constant happy phase. But that is highly unlikely because you can never have it enough. Humans are insatiable and their wants are unlimited.

Most people don’t understand the difference between wants and needs. You are currently driving a Toyota, you would surely want a Porsche you don’t really need a Porsche. When you buy Porsche you would want something better. This is why the world’s third-richest person, Warren Buffett, still drives his old Cadillac and lives in same middle-class house from his early life because he has understood the difference between wants and needs.

Everyone is not the same. Someone may find happiness in materialistic things and to fulfill that make heaven and earth meet. Then he has earned it. He deserves it. Someone may find happiness in spending time with his family and all the money in the world wouldn’t replace it. The source of happiness is very relative and generally, we consider that the thing we lack will give us happiness.

But not doing anything and just complaining about the problems you face will lead to depression.

The reason why this generation is becoming prone to mental illness and depression is that we compare our lives with other and then fall prey to our own overthinking mind.

Then Saksham how can I be happy you ask?

Have you seen a poor boy play with his friends? You would see a big smile on his face and content in his body but no slippers or shoes a, hardly any clothes and bones trying to come out of this skin. How do you explain his happiness? He doesn’t have the money or power or fame. he doesn’t really know whether he would not have any food before he sleeps but still, he enjoys his life.

Happiness comes from solving problems. It could be problems related to work or in your relationship with people who matter to you or it even may be fixing your old printer. It gives you satisfaction and a sense of achievement. Do you remember when you compared yourself with Einstein after solving a really difficult mathematics problem or the feeling of relief after stating your issues to your significant other. That’s what happiness it. It comes from taking uncomfortable challenges and then stepping out your well-protected comfort zone and doing it. No one likes changes. But Change is the only constant. The scars you will have from taking uncomfortable challenges will become a source of happiness later in life. You will grow and learn and fail and get up and run.

But you need to keep one thing in your mind. It about the process, not the end result.

You cannot be happy all the time. You will have your fair share of problems, drawbacks, and low points but in the end, fighting with them and not giving up and the winning them will make you happy, not running from them. The love of your life just left you? There is nothing to be happy there and if you laugh and be jolly most probably you need medical assistance. But if you give up on yourself in this phase and accept it that you won’t be getting her back or anyone in your life and stop trying, maybe you would never but if you take a step back and analyse where things went wrong, what you could have done to prevent it you will become better off and would not repeat the same thing and this will eventually lead to a prosperous life as you are willing to do take uncomfortable talks.

Challenge Yourself:

Find a comfortable place to sit down and start writing the things you have been willing to do or try but been procrastinating and start working on it. You don’t have to take all the tasks all in one go, do it one by one and slowly but just don’t give up and stop trying.

Remember, Happiness is a state of mind. You will have to see the good in small things to have upwards motion.