You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.

Its time you put down your weapon and stop fighting or else its going to be an endless battle where you try to do something that is not worth fighting.

It will be like pushing a wall, no matter how much effort you put in the wall will not move and later when you are exhausted fighting and pushing you realize it was all in vain and useless. Most people reach this point when they are in their old age.

You cannot expect to fight against the world when you have an ongoing battle with yourself.

Imagine this, there is a Room. A small Room.
Now this room has cracks, many cracks, it also has water patches, plaster coming out from places and dirt everywhere. You have been locked on this room for the rest of your life. First when you see this room you are disgusted, you hear voices coming from outside
telling you to push the walls and expand your room. You being a naïve kid listen to these voices and follow its instructions and
pushing the wall endlessly. You age and grow. With each passing day you realize you are not moving anywhere but still continue.
One day you back off and look and stare at the walls of the room, and think and acknowledge that the walls are made with bricks and 
rod and concrete and is pretty heavy and has a roof and every thing is connected and THERE IS NO WAY YOU CAN MOVE IT!
By the time you realize this you are already pushing sixty and its too late. But when you rest you look around the room, you notice that beautiful painting in the corner that you ignored while pushing, you notice that antique was with exotic flowers that required your attention but now are dead. The sooner you stop doing the impossible and look around the happier you will be later.

This is what accepting yourself is. Stop repenting on others having a bigger, better room and start spending time on things that really require your attention.

Now accepting doesn’t mean you will stop improving and become a sloth bear. Accepting doesn’t mean you will not paint those walls,
and fill those patches and smooth things up.

I got no jawline, I am not the fittest person in the world. I am nowhere near the television and Hollywood portrayed figures of Alpha men., having six packs and thick chest hair, drinking and smoking cigars.
I don’t even have chest hair!
But I have accepted the way I am. I don’t care what they portray or the society think I should be or look like. I am perfect in my own way and I don’t give rat’s ass to what they say. Now If go join a gym and start exercising and start becoming fit it is not because of what society thinks I should be like, Its because I want to become fit and healthy. I want to paint those walls and hang new paintings to make my room look beautiful.
When you accept yourself and become comfortable with yourself you take the biggest gun anyone can hold against you. You will not be insecure anymore.
You won’t feel like taking acceptance from anyone else. You will be YOU. but you have to accept yourself without judging.
You may not like is first but trust me you will feel relieved. You may not want to accept yourself that you are materialistic because 
it has been portrayed as a bad character to have by the society. But don’t judge yourself. I am not saying that being materialistic and affinity towards only is a good thing, It isn’t but sooner you accept that that you are like that the sooner you will change for good. Denying won’t get you anywhere.
And this is the first step towards finding yourself, finding yourself.

Challenge:

Write down things because what may seems very complicated in our mind is pretty simple when we put it on paper.This would hardly take 5 mins.
Sit down at a calm place where you be with yourself and just think about your likes and dislikes, wants and dreams, goals and drawbacks.
Don’t discard anything because you feel yo will be judged because there is no one to judged. You want a Ferrari? sure put it down. Want 
to life in Jamaica partying? Sure. It goes to the list as well. 
You are going to live with yourself for the rest of you life so there is no point of discarding your true existence.

Its time you you put down your weapon and stop fighting or else its going to be an endless battle where you try to do something that is not worth fighting.